Her Anxiety Is Killing Her Inside, But You Would Never Be Able To Tell

No one realizes she has anxiety because she is still able to function. On the outside, she looks like everybody else. She has a job. She has friends. She has a good personality. She is fun to be around, as long as she feels comfortable.

No one realizes she has anxiety because she never uses it as an excuse. When she isn’t in the mood to socialize with friends, she will lie about feeling under the weather or being swamped with work. She will never admit the real reason why she has been hiding herself away in her room.

No one realizes she has anxiety because whenever she feels uncomfortable in social situations, she digs crescents into her palms, she chews down hard on her tongue, she taps her foot faster and faster. She does little things that go unnoticed by most people. They never look at her close enough to see that she is struggling.

No one realizes she has anxiety because they assume she is quiet. Shy. They don’t realize how difficult it is for her to speak in front of crowds — or even in front of a group of close friends. They don’t realize that her reluctance to socialize goes further than shyness.

No one realizes she has anxiety because she hides herself away whenever it gets bad. She will escape to the bathroom to splash water on her face. She will escape to her car to hyperventilate. She will escape to her bedroom to cry tears of frustration. But she will never do those things in public. She will never do those things when others are around to watch.

No one realizes she has anxiety because she doesn’t like to talk about it. She never brings it up in conversation, because she isn’t sure if the people surrounding her would understand. She doesn’t want to confuse them. She doesn’t want to bother them. And she certainly doesn’t want them to start treating her any differently.

No one realizes she has anxiety because she has ventured beyond her comfort zone before. She has given speeches in front of classrooms. She has traveled across the country on her own. She has initiated conversations with strangers. She doesn’t look like she has a problem, because she has accomplished incredible things despite the fear her anxiety made her feel at the time. Things she never thought she would be able to do.

No one realizes she has anxiety because she has learned to live with it. She has learned how much socializing she can handle before she needs to take a break. She has learned when to leave a party early. She has learned how to avoid unwanted conversations. She has learned how to deal with her anxiety as best as she can.

No one realizes she has anxiety — but even if they did, it wouldn’t make a difference to them. She is kind. She is sweet. She is smart. Knowing she has anxiety wouldn’t change any of that. It wouldn’t make them love her any less.

By Holly Riordan for ThoughtCatalog

11 Things Others Don’t Realize You Are Doing Because Of Your High Functioning Anxiety

Anxiety can be very harmful and it’s not something to be overlooked. The worst problem is that a lot of people can’t understand the effects it can have on a person and find anxious people as being lazy, irresponsible and passive.

If you are not an anxious person, knowing this can help you understand anxiety a bit better. If you are, we are sure you are going to agree with these things.

1.Decline invites although you may want to go

There are certain days that you may have planned all along and when they come, anxiety takes up the whole space. It can become so debilitating that you feel as if you lack the energy to go out.

You are aware of what is happening to you and you don’t want to become a burden where you are supposed to go – so you just cancel everything.

2. Obsess over trivial things other people may not even notice

A simple word or an unintended glance from someone is enough for your head to start processing and rewinding the situation even for days! The truth is you obsess over everything that has happened recently or a week ago, or any time ago, really.

You may obsess over a conversation you had, or the fact that someone hasn’t texted you yet (after a whole 12 hour period) or really just over the fact that some stranger looked at you as if they knew you.

Whatever the case may be, many would get confused by the notion that you even notice such things.

3. Go to bed late, wake up early in the morning

One of the biggest issues for you is certainly sleeping. Of all the processing in your head after the day, you find it hard to go to bed on time.

When early morning comes, your anxiety clock starts ticking again and ringing several alarms to get things going – even though you are tired. When your anxiety has switched on (by waking up), you can’t do anything to switch it off, so you don’t go back to bed.

4. In every situation, the worst scenario is your biggest thought

Instead of enjoying the moment as it is, you can’t help picturing and convincing yourself that the worst scenario is inevitable. If it’s a first date, you are convinced that something will go terribly wrong.

If you get sick, you always manage to connect the symptoms to the worst diseases you can imagine. It’s as if your mind tricks you into believing that nothing can go right.

5. You rewind conversations in your head – over and over again

No matter how well a conversation went with somebody, you always replay that conversation in your head fearing that you may have said something wrong. That’s why you try to avoid confrontation at all cost.

This constant rewinding seems to be able to haunt you until it starts chipping a hole from the inside. You always have to remind yourself that it’s your anxiety talking and that there is most certainly nothing wrong with what you have said in the first place.

6. When someone shows concern about you, you become even more worried about the same thing

If someone notices that you are not OK and shows concern, your anxiety grows even more. The thing is, when you hear someone asking if you are alright, it makes you fear even more for yourself and your state.

You think – if it has become noticeable, then there has to be more to it than I thought. This makes you feel worse than you did.

7. You believe that you are to blame if someone doesn’t reply right away

When communicating with people, be it your significant other, a friend or a relative, if they don’t respond immediately, you start thinking that you may have said or done something wrong.

However, you should stop and consider that they may be in the middle of something that takes up their attention, or that they are just bad at communicating.

8. You are experiencing a breakdown when the future comes as a topic

While most people look forward to the future and make plans for the future, your view on the future is making you feel intimidated and frustrated.

Experiencing the present so hard makes you think how hard and daunting the future may be. This makes you retreat and hide from the thought of it.

9. You always compare your success to others who are your age

Although you may not want to compare yourself to others, your anxiety makes you scour through Facebook and stay up to date with all the successful things your peers have done.

Your worries are not that they have managed to succeed, but if you are ever going to succeed in your life like they have.

10. You obsess too much over every mistake you make by beating yourself up over it

The worst scenario is making a mistake at work. The thoughts that will consume you afterwards are tremendously difficult to handle.

Although you strive to perfect whatever you are doing, mistakes can occur, which is natural. Unfortunately, your anxiety doesn’t know that. In such cases, it becomes your worst enemy.

11. Sometimes, you feel too mentally and physically exhausted to get out of bed

Anxiety burns up most of your energy, both mentally and physically. That’s why it can happen that you cannot function properly and you just want to remain in bed and leave yourself drown in the sheets.This paralysis comes as a result of the overwhelming experiences due to your anxiety.